04/01/2018 at 12:31 pm #74030
Just a few thoughts, given with the hope that constructive criticism might result.
Please don’t throw rocks. They might dent my composure *_*
Usually my thoughts are triggered by something I hear from friends, or something I see in the news.
Things that happen are just that: things that happen.
They are not bad or good in themselves.
We are the ones who think of them that way.
When something benefits us, we call it ‘good’.
When we lose by it, we call it ‘bad’.
But that is our point of view only.
Time comes in to the equation too.
A happening can be bad for us in the short term, but good in the long term.
And vice versa.
Happenings can also be both ‘bad’ and ‘good’ at the same time.
Hence the saying, ’tis an ill wind which blows no good’.
People who are strict have little or no imagination.
Their world is black and white.
Nary a shade of grey to be seen.
And worse, their ‘black and white’ view is mostly decided by others.
Their lives are, inevitably, lessened by this ‘harsh’ attitude to living.
Sadly, they don’t realise this. To them, it is the best way to survive.
Another sad thing is that children, who are exposed to this view, suffer.
Imagination is not encouraged. Thought patterns are rigid.
The way I see it is that a parent with a very strict approach fails in his responsibility and duty of care to his children.
Fortunately, strong minded children can break away from this narrow-minded view.
But they suffer unhappiness in childhood, some of which carries through to later life.
This loss they suffer is something to be deplored.08/01/2018 at 6:07 pm #79919
Well Williamthebold, I was interested to read your post. I don’t necessarily agree with it. I was brought up under the guidance of strict parents and I do not believe I suffered because of that. I was a strict parent (single, not by choice, husband worked overseas a lot and I had three sons to raise) and I do not believe they have suffered either. At 45, 42 and 40 they have carved out lives and careers for themselves and their families and I am enormously proud of their achievements.
When I look around today at children, their behaviour and the apparent lack of any parental supervision I wonder what happened to any kind of discipline.08/01/2018 at 8:06 pm #79920
Thank you for your thoughts Greer.
I think I was too general in my comments.
By strict, I meant the extreme strictness, the rigid harshness, that some treat as normal.
It can be almost inhumane. There is little love shown.
The firmness shown by loving parents is not what I meant.
I am sorry for not being more explicit.
May I blame xmas ‘holidayness’ for my shortcomings?
I am glad you can see the happy result of your effort as a good parent.
I know it is a rewarding experience.
It can even make being called out in the wee small hours, to rescue children who forgot that cars need petrol to work, a worthwhile experience too. *_*
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